Sex & Pleasure - FAQs
Sex and pain
Does it hurt to have sex?
Sex should not hurt. If it does, please speak with your doctor. Sex can be very pleasurable when both partners consent to and are comfortable with a decision to have sex. There may be some discomfort during sex because of nervousness or moving too quickly. This can lead to dryness or tightness of the vaginal area in a female. Water based lubricant can help with vaginal dryness.
It is also important to take the feelings of your partner into consideration. If things are moving too quickly for one person – slow down. Foreplay before sex can help a couple feel connected and relaxed. It can also help produce arousal (vaginal wetness in a woman or an erection in a man), which makes sex more pleasurable.
Lubrication makes insertion and intercourse easier as friction is smoother. Lubrication also lowers the chance that a condom will break, which makes sex safer.
If you are having anal sex, it is very important to take it slowly and use plenty of water-based lubricant as the tissue in and around the anus is sensitive. It is also important to always use a condom during anal sex.
Sex should always be consensual (meaning both partners agree to have sex). You should never feel pressured or forced into having sex.
